The Blessings of Christian Relationships
Book of Ephesians 6:1-9
The world may offer many different solutions to have the right relationships but only Jehovah God has the right answers!
Remember that Paul is writing to the Church!
It is hard to have good relationships outside the family until we have the right relationships within the family.
One of the greatest problems we have in America today is with those that are called the millennials.
Those supposedly of higher learning have placed this label upon “our young adult generation”.
Who are the Millennials? (The world describes them as) The millennial generation is the generation of children born between 1982 and 2002, some 81 million children who have taken over K-12, have already entered college and the workforce.
Notice in this definition that they are still considered to be “children” rather than “young adults”.
This is the beginning of the problem with dealing with this age group!
It reminds me of “DACA” where these people are still called children when the average age of them is 40 years who never made an attempt to become a U.S. citizen. Just like those Millennials they think the world owes them everything.
The millennials are those who have reached adulthood at the beginning of the 21st Century who have not yet grown up or at least the majority of them have not.
This problem came about because the Word of God is no longer in the government. It is rejected!
This problem came about because the Word of God is no longer in the schools. It is forbidden!
This problem came about because the Word of God is longer in the homes. This is the place where the problems with our younger generation could have been corrected!
The greatest problem is, we have allowed the government to dictate the needs of our children and not the parents.
Our generation can be described as the age of problem children and those evil adults who prey on their young minds!
Our generation can be best described as the age of improper parenthood!
We know we live in a less than perfect world and many things may have to just play out, but as Christian parents and grandparents we must do our very best to obey the Word of God in this world and especially in our homes.
Obedience in the home is the place where we can do the most good!
Ephesians chapter 6 verse 1 says
*****Eph 6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
All children everywhere are to obey the just commands of their parents!
But we see the root of the problem right here in this Scripture, most parents are “not in the Lord”.
That word “obey” means to “submit to”.
If we have not submitted to the Lord, how can we expect our children to submit to us!
These Scriptures are written to the Christian family, so as parents, the greatest example we can be to our children and our grandchildren, is submit to the Lord and follow in the ways of the Lord.
If we as parents or even grandparents are not obedient to the Lord, then why should we demand that respect from our children?
We must correct our children, but this does not mean physical abuse!
Small children may require a spanking but there are many forms of discipline for the older children, but none include physical abuse!
Pro_22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
Pro_23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Pro_29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.
That word “rod” in these Scriptures means “a method of correction” because what works for one child may not work for another child.
If our “words” do not work, then some other method will be required.
We must understand that most all children will hold onto their wrong doing with great tenacity! They are born with the same sin nature that we have.
The key to discipline is to be sure that the child is aware of why he or she is punished!
The parent must be aware that the real reason for any punishment, is to prevent the destruction of that child by this evil world we live in.
One of the greatest problems with our children is that they are left alone much too often while both parents or even a single parent tries to provide for them.
We must also remember our children are never to obey the parents in anything that goes against the Word of God.
This is another Scripture that says, God will hold the parent accountable for that child if we go against the Word of God!
The child has every right to get away from the ungodly home!
Remember the Lord Jesus Christ came to this world to free us from ungodly abuse and the Lord is very serious about these things!
Mar 9:42 And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.
God will not tolerate the abuse of any child!
If those parents are godly parents, then that child is to obey them!
Col 3:20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
As godly children, they also need to be familiar with the Word of God and be taught the Ten Commandments, so they will begin to have an understanding of what God considers to be sin.
Those commandments were given to this world, to see how we measure up to the sinless Son of God, who had no sin in His life!
*****Eph 6:2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)
Eph 6:3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
To honor our parents is to realize the great value of having Christian parents!
We also see in this passage that God makes very real promises to those children who honor their Christian parents.
We must know that when the Lord makes a promise it is a binding declaration!
When we toss out the promises of God, then how can we say we have “faith”!
To honor our parents is just the beginning of realizing of a long life that could lead to an eternal life if they also give their hearts to the Lord!
Exo 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: “that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee”.
There is a second promise here.
God says, things will go well for the children who honor their parents!
This means that the Lord will help those children to live a victorious life again, if they give their heart to Jesus!
It is the godly family at home that will also realize the importance of the Church, where all the family of God will gather together.
To honor means that those parents or grandparents must be very precious to each of us!
To honor our Lord Jesus Christ, is to know that He is very precious in this life and holds the gift of eternal life, because He is life!
Jas_1:12 Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, “which the Lord hath promised to them that love him”.
When we honor someone, we will do the things that make them happy!
We should also realize that when this passage talks of children, it does not refer to any age group because even as we age, we are to honor our Christian parents as long as they live!
A child who honors their parents and grandparents will not do any wrong!
God also has many other promises.
Deu 27:16 “Cursed be he that setteth light by his father or his mother”. And all the people shall say, Amen.
The parents also have obligations!
*****Eph 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but “bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord”.
As parents we have this great responsibility!
Children are a blessing given to us from God Himself!
Gen 33:5 And he lifted up his eyes, and saw the women and the children; and said, Who are those with thee? And he said, “The children which God hath graciously given thy servant”.
As Christian parents, we are to love our children and remember, love is an action word and not just words that come out of our mouths.
Tit 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, “to love their children”,
As Christian parents, we are to lead our children to the Lord no matter their age!
Mat 19:14 But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.
We are to do for our children, just as the Lord does for each of His children!
Isa 38:19 The living, the living, he shall praise thee, as I do this day: “the father to the children shall make known thy truth”.
We must realize that family life has its origin in Heaven!
Each family is to be little world reflection of the family of God!
Each family is to be a little world reflection of God’s church!
God will punish His own children who show open defiance of His Word and as parents we must punish our own child who show open defiance to our words, but our words must be according to the Word of God!
We must not over control any child. Remember God gives each of us the freedom of choice, but He also cautions us to know that choices also bring consequences that we will have to endure. This is a great lesson for the child to learn early in his or her days! Choices bring consequences!
There should be a balance between home life and life outside the doors of that home.
We are to train up that child in a godly manner and pray that they will use that training in every decision that they make when they are out in the world!
If we are over protective of our children, they will become discouraged and through this discouragement make bad choices.
The other side of this this is, if we to over control our children they will take advantage of us!
This is the biggest problem in the family today. We pamper our children. We try to give them anything they want. We give in to their desires without questioning them.
It is also true that the parent needs some free time but never at the expense of losing that child to the world!
We must live our lives according to the Word of God if we expect our children to live by our words!
When we tell a child not to do something and then we turn around and do those things in their sight, we will certainly cause problems with that child and in that home!
Jer 9:14 But have walked after the imagination of their own heart, and after Baalim, “which their fathers taught them”:
We are to raise our children according to our own thought and ways, we are to raise our children according to the Word of God!
The Word of God is to be the guide for the entire family and not just the children!
If we have the fruit of the Holy Spirit, then our children will realize that this is the way they should be.
And if our children have given themselves to the Lord, then we need to disciple them as well as being taught ourselves.
Life is full of pitfalls and temptations which can destroy the family, and this must be the thing that we try to avoid the most!
Lam 2:19 Arise, cry out in the night: in the beginning of the watches pour out thine heart like water before the face of the Lord: “lift up thy hands toward him for the life of thy young children, that faint for hunger in the top of every street”.
As Christians we must pray that our children will be hungry for the Word of God just as we must also be.
Col 3:16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.
Col 3:17 And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.
God wrote these words not just for the adult but also for the children.
All these things should follow us in every facet of our lives!
*****Eph 6:5 Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;
Eph 6:6 Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;
Eph 6:7 With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men:
We must clearly understand that the problem with this world we live in is not an economic problem, but it is a spiritual problem and it begins in each home.
There were millions of slaves in the Roman Empire in the days of the Apostle Paul. It is said, that the number could be as high as 60 million slaves.
This leaves us no doubt that many of these slaves became Christians and the Holy Spirit caused Paul to address these things.
Most all the things we learn here in these Scriptures we can carry over into the work place of today!
The Lord did not allow the Jews to have slaves and we can understand that this is still the same for all Christians today, but it cannot be denied that slavery was a large part of the world of that day and slavery is much more widespread today than is covered by any news source, or reported by any governments, including the United Nations!
The New Testament has a lot to say about slavery!
As we go through these things lets also consider that slaves of that day had no rights at all, they were considered nothing more than a piece of merchandise!
It is not proper to change anything in the Bible but let’s just think of the word “employee” in the place of the word “servants” as we look at this passage.
As employees, we are to follow the instructions of our employer.
“According to the flesh” means that these employers are to be obeyed in the workplace.
The phrase with “fear and trembling” does not mean to work with the fear of men but to work with the “fear of God” which really means to understand what God is teaching in this passage.
As Christians, no matter our positions in the workplace or any other place, we are never to bring reproach upon the name of the Lord Jesus Christ in the things that we do!
Psa 31:19 Oh how great is thy goodness, which thou hast laid up for them that fear thee; which thou hast wrought for them “that trust in thee before the sons of men”!
No matter who we are or what we do, when we undertake to serve individuals or even the public for any sort wage or payment, we must do so according to the will of God in our lives!
As Christians, if we receive a payment for some service we are providing, then we are to work with singleness of heart as if we are providing that service for Jesus Christ.
We must be devoted to our work and not just pretending to be a good workman!
1Co 6:20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
We do not quit being owned of God no matter what we do! We are bought and paid for with the blood of Jesus Christ!
We are never to do anything to please men, all our work is to please God!
Whether our boss is looking at us or not looking at us while we work, we should accomplish our work as if the Lord is watching “because He is”.
We are to work from our heart that has been changed by the Lord, no matter what we do or who we do it for!
Exo 23:25 And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.
We must realize that it is an honor and a privilege to serve the Lord even while we are serving others!
We must realize that the “Grace” of God makes us servants of God even while we are servants of men!
Grace enables us to do the business of Heaven, while we are attending to the business of earth.
This may sound funny, but we are to come out from the evils of this world, even while we are still among them!
No matter where we are, or what we are doing, as long as it is not immoral or unjust labor, we are to work diligently as if we were working for the Lord!
1Co 15:58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, “forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord”.
The result of such a diligent work habit will reflect on an equal reward from the Lord!
We will always receive our rewards based upon effort no matter who we are, because God is no respecter of persons.
2Co 5:10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that everyone may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.
We must also remember, God is not going to hold these things over our head, God is truly wanting to bless each and every one of us, but He does expect us to do right after He has given us the gift of His “Grace” which came by our “faith”.
*****Eph 6:8 Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
It does not matter if we are a slave or a CEO of some large company, we are to be diligent in our workplace!
No matter how hard our job, no matter how difficult our job, God rewards us for the effort in doing that job right!
Jesus Christ gave of Himself in everything He did, even giving His life for all of us!
We must also remember craving recognition for our service, can become a disease.
Isa 3:11 Woe unto the wicked! it shall be ill with him: for the reward of his hands shall be given him.
Even today, there are many Christians who cannot do anything unless the world knows about it. They will then have lost any reward they could have had!
Pro 11:18 The wicked worketh a deceitful work: but to him that soweth righteousness shall be a sure reward.
We should remember the slave, who would work in hope of a future day of freedom and release from that bondage.
It should be the same for the Christian, we should work for the future, that day of perfection when we will meet the Lord in the air.
Nothing upon this earth has the importance of that day!
It is the day the Lord gathers His redeemed! After all, as Christians we know that this is the next thing on God’s agenda.
1Co 7:22 For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord’s freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ’s servant.
Mat 16:27 For the Son of man shall come in the glory of his Father with his angels; and then he shall reward every man according to his works.
The Lord has given the workman many things that become the Christian service, even at his workplace and to those who serve, and even to those who are the slaves in this modern-day world, but the Lord also has instructions for those who are masters.
*****Eph 6:9 And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.
Notice the master is to do all the same things as the worker, or the slave!
The master is to treat the workman in the same way as they are to treat him!
These masters, or foremen, or supervisors, and all such people, are to follow the same principles of God as the worker!
We are all humans created by the Jehovah God, through Jesus Christ!
We all have the same Master, the Lord Jesus Christ, who sits on the throne in Heaven, taking account of all things upon this earth.
To the Lord, the master on earth and the slave (the worker) are one and the same, when they belong to Him.
Col 4:1 Masters, give unto your servants that which is just and equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven.
The Lord will reward, or He will punish according to the character we have shown here on earth no matter who we are or what place in society we are a part of!
As Christians we must be loyal to all our responsibilities until the Lord takes us home. This includes the family, including our Christian family, the workplace, the community and especially the Church where God has placed us.
Col 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
Col 3:24 Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.
Col 3:25 But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.
There is to no one and in no place, are we to be in a threatening manner. We are all accountable to the Lord for every action we take!